Focus on nurturing your healthy relationships so that they are even more loving and fulfilling. –
Love is a beautiful thing; one we all deserve. Love that is; kind, patient, true, giving, and honest. Love that honors us and makes us feel like we matter.
Human beings are relational in nature and deep down we crave to experience love in its purest and rawest forms. However, in pursuit of this great love, we may find ourselves in the middle of relationships that don’t serve us.
You’d be surprised to learn that healthy relationships are not as common as you’d think. Most people don’t know what it means to be in drama and toxic-free relationships. If you don’t know any better, it’s easy to think that dysfunction is a defining characteristic of love and relationships. Our joy at Langniappe therapy is to see you enjoy the best of relationships; that’s why we equip you with the right tools for you to succeed.
A healthy relationship is like a gift that keeps on giving because it sets the pace for many things; how we respond to life, how our children view relationships, how we relate with others and how we treat ourselves. It’s important to heal from the relationship trauma you may have because if you don’t, chances are, you will always self-sabotage when a healthy relationship comes your way.
One of the key aspects of healing is learning what a healthy relationship looks like so that you can look out for it and be it. We need to embody healthy traits so that we can show up in the best ways for the ones we love. It’s a powerful thing to walk in self-awareness enough to be the one who cultivates healthy relationships. If you want to see change, you must first be the change. Create an enabling environment for thriving relationships which makes it so much easier for you and your partner/s.
The only way a relationship will last is if you see it as a place that you go to give, not a place that you go to take.
– Tony Robbins.
What do you need to cultivate?
This is taking responsibility for one’s actions. You don’t shift blame when you know you’re at fault. You apologize when you make a mistake. Your words are backed by your change in behavior which assures the other person that you’re committed to improvement.
You respect your significant other’s personal space and need to be alone sometimes. You give them time when they need to breathe and you don’t encroach where they don’t want you to be. Relationships are not ownership so you shouldn’t feel like people belong to you or owe you all their time. Both of you are individuals with two separate lives that need to be respected.
Teamwork makes the dream work. Two cannot walk together unless they agree. You are willing to accommodate the other person’s views and also hear them out during disagreements. You include them in your plans and you’re willing to compromise when need be. You share ideas and communicate openly. You’re also willing to do whatever it takes to make the relationship work.
You are aware of their moods, feelings, and emotions. You make them feel seen, heard, and valued. You share in their pain and struggle and stick with them through it. You keep their secrets safe and give them time to heal. You are present with them and you don’t make them feel ignored.
You are their biggest cheerleader, their sounding board and positive critic. You know their dreams and give as much as you can to support them. You don’t judge their aspirations and you give advice when they need some. They can count on you to come through for them at any time.
– Safety & Trust
You provide safe spaces for them to fully be themselves. You make them feel at home with you where they can be all they want to be, share their weaknesses and find comfort. You assure them that they can borrow your wings when theirs are broken and they don’t have to be ashamed of anything.
Where should you start?
Your relationships can only be as healthy as you are. – Neil Clark Warren
Therapy is a good start if you’re determined to have healthy relationships. Remember that you need to mirror these attributes before you can expect them from others. Working on yourself is the greatest investment there is because it multiplies to other areas of your life. Schedule an appointment with us today for relationship therapy.